I tried to make small talk with this young woman I go on and on about while we conducted our business the other day. Things went reasonably well. Real quick out of her after I initiated the small talk exchange, she asked if I worked certain hours. I blurted out something about how I'd get a job "as soon as things ramp up a bit" in the world. I walked out of there thinking I wanted a job toot sweet. I asked one of staff at Austin Clubhouse if he knew of any place I could apply, and he gave me a promising lead.
Then, as I leisurely lounged around in my apartment looking forward to listening to West Coast baseball on the internet at nine and working on my last two books of my current comic book series, I thought, "Wait a minute." "Wait a minute," I thought, "This young woman is a love interest. A love interest is not a girlfriend. A love interest resides in a whole different set of parameters in regards to me than does a girlfriend." Now, I adore this young woman in her current status as a love interest to me, but isn't the idea that I should get a job because she might possibly want me to get one a little presumptuous on my part and a little premature on the whole?
I get money from Social Security Disability and family gifts to me. The level of support from my family remains at a level similar to the level of support I got during those years when I helped take care of my dad. My dad passed away in March of last year (not COVID BTW), and the sibling in charge of disbursing assets left by my dad for my care had a very transparent dialogue, initiated by me, about my level of support from these assets. As of this writing, my family makes no demands of me to pull more of my own weight.
I understand where this young woman comes from if she would like the idea of anyone she gets involved with to have the responsibilities and demands of a job; part-time, full time, temp work, professional, menial, whatever, "Just have a job, dude, okay." I've been one of those people with that same requirement most of my life too. But realize that if she and I went out to eat at just about any place in town, she would have no worries about whether I could pick up the check or not. Not because I'm some free money tree, but because I could plan and budget for such an occasion with the monies provided my by my current sources of income. I can cook some pretty nice meals at home too.
Let's just say this issue might come up as an issue on the table for further discussion should we ever make more of each other's acquaintance some day, I hope. That's fine. If my current position on this issue proves a deal killer for her, no matter that we hardly know each at all in so many ways at this point, well, chalk it up to the dating options of an early twenty-something, very attractive young woman who could just as easily reject a guy because he likes crunchy hippie jam band music as she could reject me because I reside at a different place in my own working life than she does in her working life.
Myself and this young woman reside a very, very different places in our respective lives in so many, many ways. In my last post I talked about fundamental issues of incompatibility potentially killing off any deal between us before we ever get started, and this one possible issue could do that, but so could so many other issues as well. In other words. "She likes po-tay-to, I like po-tah-to/ she likes to-may-to, I like to-mah-to/ po-tay-to, po-tah-to/ to-may-to, to-mah-to/ let's call the whole thing off."
Then, as I leisurely lounged around in my apartment looking forward to listening to West Coast baseball on the internet at nine and working on my last two books of my current comic book series, I thought, "Wait a minute." "Wait a minute," I thought, "This young woman is a love interest. A love interest is not a girlfriend. A love interest resides in a whole different set of parameters in regards to me than does a girlfriend." Now, I adore this young woman in her current status as a love interest to me, but isn't the idea that I should get a job because she might possibly want me to get one a little presumptuous on my part and a little premature on the whole?
I get money from Social Security Disability and family gifts to me. The level of support from my family remains at a level similar to the level of support I got during those years when I helped take care of my dad. My dad passed away in March of last year (not COVID BTW), and the sibling in charge of disbursing assets left by my dad for my care had a very transparent dialogue, initiated by me, about my level of support from these assets. As of this writing, my family makes no demands of me to pull more of my own weight.
I understand where this young woman comes from if she would like the idea of anyone she gets involved with to have the responsibilities and demands of a job; part-time, full time, temp work, professional, menial, whatever, "Just have a job, dude, okay." I've been one of those people with that same requirement most of my life too. But realize that if she and I went out to eat at just about any place in town, she would have no worries about whether I could pick up the check or not. Not because I'm some free money tree, but because I could plan and budget for such an occasion with the monies provided my by my current sources of income. I can cook some pretty nice meals at home too.
Let's just say this issue might come up as an issue on the table for further discussion should we ever make more of each other's acquaintance some day, I hope. That's fine. If my current position on this issue proves a deal killer for her, no matter that we hardly know each at all in so many ways at this point, well, chalk it up to the dating options of an early twenty-something, very attractive young woman who could just as easily reject a guy because he likes crunchy hippie jam band music as she could reject me because I reside at a different place in my own working life than she does in her working life.
Myself and this young woman reside a very, very different places in our respective lives in so many, many ways. In my last post I talked about fundamental issues of incompatibility potentially killing off any deal between us before we ever get started, and this one possible issue could do that, but so could so many other issues as well. In other words. "She likes po-tay-to, I like po-tah-to/ she likes to-may-to, I like to-mah-to/ po-tay-to, po-tah-to/ to-may-to, to-mah-to/ let's call the whole thing off."
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