I just saw a YouTube video where an attractive young woman took it to the women out there for supposedly putting men off who approach them for social reasons. The young woman in the video cited an informal survey she took that quoted men's fear of rejection and humiliation at the hands of strange women they try to talk to for social reasons as the main cause of women finding themselves lonely and single.
I don't have any easy, pat answers to such a dilemma. I have that experience of October of 2021, when I approached that very young, very attractive grocery store employee for social reasons in front of God and everyone, and I've gone on and on about how nice this young woman came off to me when I did finally approach her after years of cat and mouse between us. However, I came up empty in the end, and I don't do that kind of thing very often.
The other night at a music venue, I fancied the idea of approaching a young, very attractive fellow patron for social reasons, but decided against it. My mind just went over how much courage it took to approach that grocery store employee, and the extenuating circumstances that led to my gesture, and how I ulitmately still came up empty. I just didn't want to feel obliged to summon that level of courage on a moment's notice for someone I didn't know at all when I thought about doing something about it the other night at that music venue.
I just chalk it up to whatever experience I do have with women as to when I approach women and when I don't. I want to emphasize that begging off of such a move and living to fight another day under, hopefully, more favorable circumstances counts as legitimate experience as well.