I had a friend who related to his girlfriends in the manner of an abusive alcoholic asshole, and he'd have girlfriends rewarding him for his efforts sometimes two at a time. And, I might add, these "rewards" aren't just something one could put off on women, because I used to associate with someone whose ongoing infidelity towards her husband got rewarded with a long, stable marriage, a roof over her head, and kids.
So, if I ever had the occasion where I saw fit to let go of someone in my world, and I wanted to do so in a manner that she and those around us found acceptable, I'd set up a token reward system rather than try to look for validation for my behavior from other women in my world. I give myself token rewards for behaving in an acceptable manner towards family members, and for meeting goals such as regular guitar practice and exercise, among other things. I find that these kinds of rewards, coming from myself, prove so much more reliable than affirmation and/or validation from others in my purview.