So maybe a good move for me would be to demurely, discreetly withdraw whatever request, verbal or non-verbal, I may make to a woman in this category that she love me. It's a hell of a thing to ask another human being to love me. Any human being, really.
Particularly a woman who belongs to a category of human that has not panned out at all. To the extent that I seem to come across as a guy asking such a woman to do this in some way, I will try to stop doing this. That's as good as I got.