In 2016 I would eat at this pizza place near my house. I made the acquaintance of a young woman who was a shift manager. She typically worked behind the counter when I came in and ordered spaghetti and meatballs and like that. One time she mentioned that she liked to hang out at a bar after work near her place of employment, and would I like to hang out with her one night. I said that I don't drink, and she acted shot down.
A couple of weeks later, I offered to hang out at her bar to watch a presidential debate with her. She said she'd meet me at the appointed hour, I went there, waited, and she never showed. I just noted in this blog the next day that I didn't want to go into her place of employment right away and try to prove what a great guy I was about being stood up. I thought that might come across as manipulative. But, we got along after that, even though we never went out together.
Well, that's a near-miss worth noting, I guess. When I say I'm uncomfortable about going into some young, attractive woman's place of employment and asking her out, I mean something different than what happened with this manager at this restaurant. I mean, I don't want to go into some woman's place of employment with a predetermined PLAN of asking her out in front of god and everyone. I think when I would do stuff like that, I would have done just as well to walk up to said attractive young female employee and drop my pants in front of her.
But, this time in the pizza place, it was established that this young woman had enough of and interest in me to invite me to her favorite hangout. Now, someone doesn't necessarily have to ASK ME OUT to reassure me that they have an interest in me (it helps), but some kind of equivalent gesture would be nice.
Look, Sara and me not asking her out, ever, is not the ONLY experience I've had with women that I consider relevant. But, when I'm talking about approaching some much younger, really attractive young woman in her place of employment for such social things, maybe a somewhat unplanned, tit-for-tat escalation would prove much more preferable to all concerned over me trying to carry the whole load myself.
A couple of weeks later, I offered to hang out at her bar to watch a presidential debate with her. She said she'd meet me at the appointed hour, I went there, waited, and she never showed. I just noted in this blog the next day that I didn't want to go into her place of employment right away and try to prove what a great guy I was about being stood up. I thought that might come across as manipulative. But, we got along after that, even though we never went out together.
Well, that's a near-miss worth noting, I guess. When I say I'm uncomfortable about going into some young, attractive woman's place of employment and asking her out, I mean something different than what happened with this manager at this restaurant. I mean, I don't want to go into some woman's place of employment with a predetermined PLAN of asking her out in front of god and everyone. I think when I would do stuff like that, I would have done just as well to walk up to said attractive young female employee and drop my pants in front of her.
But, this time in the pizza place, it was established that this young woman had enough of and interest in me to invite me to her favorite hangout. Now, someone doesn't necessarily have to ASK ME OUT to reassure me that they have an interest in me (it helps), but some kind of equivalent gesture would be nice.
Look, Sara and me not asking her out, ever, is not the ONLY experience I've had with women that I consider relevant. But, when I'm talking about approaching some much younger, really attractive young woman in her place of employment for such social things, maybe a somewhat unplanned, tit-for-tat escalation would prove much more preferable to all concerned over me trying to carry the whole load myself.
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