Now, should I forgive these people? Right off the bat? I don't think that constitutes genuine forgiveness. Past experiences with these awkward situations tell me that a sudden, unilateral effort to forgive these young, attractive women after these episodes would amount to myself wanting something material in exchange for conferring forgiveness on these women. That something would include love, sex, companionship etc. My experiences tell me that trying to forgive someone in hopes of getting something material in return is not real forgiveness. The behaviors I and the other parties could engage in, and not getting those material things in return for my "forgiveness," just led to more trouble for me.
What do I do instead? I think I will just go about my day to day routines. That would include going about my business at these coffee shops and restaurants and other places. I can go any time I want, no matter which employees work there, because I didn't do anything wrong, and if I just go about my business and don't bother anyone, I think we can all accept that. These women have the right to earn a living just as much as anyone else does. I've had people actually apologize for stuff in the past, and then I would say, "Okay." I think that would make for a more genuine effort at reconciliation over the idea that I just confer forgiveness because I'm such a good guy.