I remember really enjoying life more and more as I knew that my commitment to stop smoking really had a chance of taking hold. That is, the longer I stayed off cigarettes, the more I could enjoy what I'd accomplished. I really do believe that I've quit pursuing unavailable women. That doesn't mean that women always say yes when I ask them out these days-far from it- but if someone adds up to an unavailable woman from the start, I tend to not do much of anything about it.
One of the characteristics of a truly, classic unavailable woman shows up in how the same kinds of obnoxious behaviors emerge even though I don't do much of anything about their presence in my world. In my early twenties, I would fully commit to pursuing these kinds of woman, and the ruinous crash-and-burn breakdowns occurred with the requisite obnoxious behaviors on their end. I talked about things such as how they would figuratively pull the rug out from under me, or how they would otherwise sabotage the whole situation. An example of such a thing would involve how they would throw some guy up in my face after my ardent pursuit of them, but really, anything to throw me a curve. One of the trademarks of these bad deals involves how the bad would soon far outweigh whatever good I could find in the deal.
So, yeah, I'm not really looking for a love interest from amongst the women in my world right now. That would mark another aspect of the bad experiences; the need to try to rebound with someone else. Another aspect of the aftermath of these ruinous experiences would involve a desire on my part to quit pursuing art and try to do just about anything else. I came up with NFL player, astronaut, marine biologist, pharmacist, and others, I'm sure. Dealing with the usual suspects in more effective ways suffices these days. Right now I can enjoy life and take it easy in much the same way I did when I quit smoking, and again many years later when I quit alcohol and drugs.