Yesterday morning I went about my business after I dropped my dad off at work. A couple of attractive young women at these businesses I patronize were really nice to me in a professional, doing-their-job kind of way. In a perfect world I would like nothing better than the opportunity to get to know such women better. I wondered if they read this blog, and if they were somehow reacting to the last post where I broke down the futility of romantically pursuing this one young woman who worked a job like theirs and whom I interact with about as often as I do these young women.
So, yeah, I've said it before, my stated goal in my interactions with such young women is that they don't have the impression that I'm trying to assign them the role of love interest to me. I've said in many previous posts that I've traced the source spring of my river of dysfunction in my relationship with women back to the idea that I needed to always have a love interest from amongst the women in my world. In earlier days this or that young woman might attend classes I attended in college or work the same job I worked. As of some years ago, that deal morphed into these young women who worked these food service/ retail jobs at businesses I patronized.
The moratorium on love interests helps me separate myself mentally from women I desire to the point where I can tell where I leave off and they begin. This ability to separate myself from them allows me to make intelligent decisions about how I relate to them. Decisions that serve both my own and these young women's best interests comprise the dominant characteristic of intelligent decisions. So far, intelligent decision involve me cutting these young women loose at some point. That is all.
So, yeah, I've said it before, my stated goal in my interactions with such young women is that they don't have the impression that I'm trying to assign them the role of love interest to me. I've said in many previous posts that I've traced the source spring of my river of dysfunction in my relationship with women back to the idea that I needed to always have a love interest from amongst the women in my world. In earlier days this or that young woman might attend classes I attended in college or work the same job I worked. As of some years ago, that deal morphed into these young women who worked these food service/ retail jobs at businesses I patronized.
The moratorium on love interests helps me separate myself mentally from women I desire to the point where I can tell where I leave off and they begin. This ability to separate myself from them allows me to make intelligent decisions about how I relate to them. Decisions that serve both my own and these young women's best interests comprise the dominant characteristic of intelligent decisions. So far, intelligent decision involve me cutting these young women loose at some point. That is all.
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