A couple of posts ago I talked about how waitresses and baristas in my world seemed to not want to interact with me much, and I attributed this perception to a desire of their part to get me to focus my mental energy on this former cashier. So, if that is true, they are basically putting their own credibility on the line and vouching for this former cashier and implying that she is somehow worth my time and energy.
Okay, time out. Stop doing this. Just stop. Stop! One example: Frenchie and his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend had two distinctly different takes on Kristin and HER supposed ex-boyfriend. Frenchie's girlfriend, I'll call her Leslie, because that was her name, gave this girl Kristin her ringing endorsement in the winter of 1999/2000. She did warn me, though, to disregard the guy she always hung out with, her ex-boyfriend. She told me not to worry, it wasn't what it looked like.
I asked Frenchie about Kristin after talking a few times with Leslie about her ex-boyfriend, and Frenchie had quite a different take. He told me that the very ambiguous appearance of what was going on with Kristin and her ex-boyfriend, and the fact that no one really knew whether or not they were really still boyfriend and girlfriend, presented anyone looking into getting to know Kristin better with ample reason to just not even try to get to know her in the first place.
Now, this was around the year 2000. I still had enough naivete to go ahead and give Kristin enough of a benefit of a doubt to try to talk to her some. My chance came one Sunday night at the Hole in the Wall. Or did it? Kristin and her ex were holding court in the pool room, talking to each other and those around them. I tried to talk to her, but she seemed to have so much fun interacting and flirting with her "ex" that I couldn't get a word in edgewise.
I couldn't help but remember what Frenchie had told me about how no one really knew whether or not she and this guy were still together, and between what he told me and what I saw with my own eyes, that was enough for me, pretty much. Whatever lingering interest I had in her was never the same after I saw how well Kristin and her ex got along, and how they just couldn't seem to get enough of each other.
Now that's just ONE fucking example of some sketchy broad getting vouched for by a seemingly reliable, credible woman, and yeah, not the only time for me, either. Not by a long shot. Like I said, my decision to let this former cashier go two and a half years ago SHOULD count for something. Why it doesn't seems to reflect other people's utter lack of respect for my own judgment about what's in my own best interests than it does any actual credibility and trustworthiness this cashier has managed to EARN in regards to me.
This former cashier has earned ZERO credibility and ZERO trust from me in how she's interacted with me of late. The fact that she showed up in my world about three months ago now doesn't really mean shit to me, okay. That's because when she did show up, she acted as if that was ALL she had to do by that point. Well, I let go of her in January 2022, to the best of my ability, and I was not inclined to put myself out there on behalf of true love on the two occasions I saw her at my job.
These women in my world would do well, in my opinion, to stop acting on her behalf, if that's what some of them are really doing, and just put it out there that she should just put up or shut up in regards to our whole deal. Like I said in a post from last weekend, I had very good reasons for "shooting myself in the foot" when I revealed that I no longer feel the same way about her that I used to. I have ZERO interest in a supposed "opportunity" to hook up with someone I no longer feel I care for. Stop advocating for her. Just stop. It's up to her and her alone to advocate for herself if she has any interest in continuing this insane bullshit.
Okay, time out. Stop doing this. Just stop. Stop! One example: Frenchie and his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend had two distinctly different takes on Kristin and HER supposed ex-boyfriend. Frenchie's girlfriend, I'll call her Leslie, because that was her name, gave this girl Kristin her ringing endorsement in the winter of 1999/2000. She did warn me, though, to disregard the guy she always hung out with, her ex-boyfriend. She told me not to worry, it wasn't what it looked like.
I asked Frenchie about Kristin after talking a few times with Leslie about her ex-boyfriend, and Frenchie had quite a different take. He told me that the very ambiguous appearance of what was going on with Kristin and her ex-boyfriend, and the fact that no one really knew whether or not they were really still boyfriend and girlfriend, presented anyone looking into getting to know Kristin better with ample reason to just not even try to get to know her in the first place.
Now, this was around the year 2000. I still had enough naivete to go ahead and give Kristin enough of a benefit of a doubt to try to talk to her some. My chance came one Sunday night at the Hole in the Wall. Or did it? Kristin and her ex were holding court in the pool room, talking to each other and those around them. I tried to talk to her, but she seemed to have so much fun interacting and flirting with her "ex" that I couldn't get a word in edgewise.
I couldn't help but remember what Frenchie had told me about how no one really knew whether or not she and this guy were still together, and between what he told me and what I saw with my own eyes, that was enough for me, pretty much. Whatever lingering interest I had in her was never the same after I saw how well Kristin and her ex got along, and how they just couldn't seem to get enough of each other.
Now that's just ONE fucking example of some sketchy broad getting vouched for by a seemingly reliable, credible woman, and yeah, not the only time for me, either. Not by a long shot. Like I said, my decision to let this former cashier go two and a half years ago SHOULD count for something. Why it doesn't seems to reflect other people's utter lack of respect for my own judgment about what's in my own best interests than it does any actual credibility and trustworthiness this cashier has managed to EARN in regards to me.
This former cashier has earned ZERO credibility and ZERO trust from me in how she's interacted with me of late. The fact that she showed up in my world about three months ago now doesn't really mean shit to me, okay. That's because when she did show up, she acted as if that was ALL she had to do by that point. Well, I let go of her in January 2022, to the best of my ability, and I was not inclined to put myself out there on behalf of true love on the two occasions I saw her at my job.
These women in my world would do well, in my opinion, to stop acting on her behalf, if that's what some of them are really doing, and just put it out there that she should just put up or shut up in regards to our whole deal. Like I said in a post from last weekend, I had very good reasons for "shooting myself in the foot" when I revealed that I no longer feel the same way about her that I used to. I have ZERO interest in a supposed "opportunity" to hook up with someone I no longer feel I care for. Stop advocating for her. Just stop. It's up to her and her alone to advocate for herself if she has any interest in continuing this insane bullshit.
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