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Love > Hate? Addicted to conflict?

11/29/2018

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One hears about how love is the only way to conquer hate.  If I were to apply it to my own life, especially all that I've talked about this past month or so, I would say this: in these adversarial situations I've so often found myself in with women in my world these past few years, I've always tried to have the other party's best interests at heart as well as my own.  If I'm right about what has been happening  these past several years, I've been viewed by the other parties as the bad guy who needed to learn his lesson.  

It takes a while to "win" when one does it my way.  In the last post, I brought up a couple of times where I "lost," and I just had to lower my head and soldier on.  The problem I've traditionally had in the past had to do with how naive and overly trusting I could be in regards to the intentions of the other party.  It's hard to wrap my head around the concept that the other party doesn't have the same agenda as me in regards to having my best interests at heart.  If anyone out there wonders why I've done so well in these conflicts of the past several years, I would attribute my success to the fact that I've got the other party's well being in mind, AND that I've just had a ton of practice at this sort of thing.  One example of why those two things in tandem can work to my advantage over the other party lies in fact that the other party often doesn't have the support of those around them that I have when it becomes clear where they are coming from vs. where I am coming from.  That's a big lesson I learned from my days with Sara in 1988.

On to the second question.  I don't think I am addicted to these conflicts.  I don't think that I will try to milk this conflict of these past several years for all it's worth.  In 1999, in the aftermath of the incident at Rhythm house, I thought it'd be clever to depict my antagonists in that conflict as victims of the Whitman Massacre in the first issue of my comic book.  Talk about shooting myself in the foot!  Those people even tried to set me up with a gal before I sent them a copy of the book the next year.  When that gal didn't work out, the sister of one of the Whitman victims said that she wanted to hang out with me.  Then I sent them the copy of that book, and that was the end of that.

It was only years later, when instead of the kind of effigy I did of those antagonists in the first issue of Richy Vegas Comics, I came out with issue # 4, which simply told my side of the whole brouhaha that started the trouble in the first place, that they all kind of called off the dogs on me.  So, that's the lesson I learned from that; that just telling my side of the story has a better chance of working to my advantage than trying to get cute.  After I finish what I'm currently working on, which should take about five or six more years, I will try to do a series on the experience I just had for my comic book.  In fact, that's kind of where my head is at right now.  I'm not thinking about trying to pick up women or have love interests or anything like that.  I hope that my intention of telling my side of this story doesn't alarm anyone out there.  I try to be fair and reasonably discreet when I relate these stories. 
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