Last week's posts frequently referred to the Unavailable Woman Deal that I feel I unwittingly signed on for with a young, attractive woman in a food service business that I frequented. Briefly, the deal was this: I tried to bend over backwards to accommodate her and her spirit in my being in order to come up with a resolution that benefited us both as well as those around us, and in exchange for my efforts, she got to do whatever the hell she wanted.
I decided to opt out of this deal. But, let me make one thing perfectly clear: she can still do whatever the hell she wants. She can associate with whomever she pleases, go anywhere she pleases, and do anything she pleases. I merely opted out of my end of the deal. In relation to me, she may as well reside on the other side of the Moon from me. I don't patronize her place of employment anymore, and I don't plan to patronize her place of employment in the foreseeable future. Call my change in my end of the deal the closest I will get to doing whatever the hell I want in these kinds of situations.
I've got bigger fish to fry. In last week's posts I wrote about someone from my past who may still have issues with me. I think I can say that I no longer try to hide behind the belief that my emotional pain over what happened so many years ago counts more than hers. That's pretty new. I'm ready to do whatever I believe it could take to at least let her know through a third party or directly to her that I will talk about any of that stuff that went on on my end of it. If she does not wish to disclose much of anything on her end, I could live with that.
I decided to opt out of this deal. But, let me make one thing perfectly clear: she can still do whatever the hell she wants. She can associate with whomever she pleases, go anywhere she pleases, and do anything she pleases. I merely opted out of my end of the deal. In relation to me, she may as well reside on the other side of the Moon from me. I don't patronize her place of employment anymore, and I don't plan to patronize her place of employment in the foreseeable future. Call my change in my end of the deal the closest I will get to doing whatever the hell I want in these kinds of situations.
I've got bigger fish to fry. In last week's posts I wrote about someone from my past who may still have issues with me. I think I can say that I no longer try to hide behind the belief that my emotional pain over what happened so many years ago counts more than hers. That's pretty new. I'm ready to do whatever I believe it could take to at least let her know through a third party or directly to her that I will talk about any of that stuff that went on on my end of it. If she does not wish to disclose much of anything on her end, I could live with that.
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