I'll open things up some now

I often talk about these total shit show episodes from my relationship with women.  The vast majority of these experiences occurred in the 1980s and 90s.  Well now, do I have any more RECENT, yet RELEVANT experiences I can draw upon to broaden my frame of reference beyond stuff that happened so long ago?  One that comes to mind involves that barista I checked out about a month and a half to three months ago.  That was no shit show.  We get along fine.  I just concluded that she wanted an admirer more than anything else, and I made my decisions accordingly.  The thing that made such an agenda from a woman towards me in the past such a shit show had to do with my expectations for so much more than that. I  didn't have those expectations so much this time with that barista.  We get along fine.

So, what did I do right?  I remembered how the process of opening myself up went, and how doing things such as going to inexpensive restaurants and the coffee shop to see people seemed to play a big part in opening me up to what might or might not happen with this barista.  I don't regret doing any of that at all.  Oh, by the way, I'm talking about opening myself up to possibilities vis-a-vis that former cashier, whom I've been going on and on about, once again, these days.  The last thing I want to do is try to come up with all sorts of scenarios and motivations involving her and pick them apart.  I'll just try keep a reasonably open mind and heart and see what happens.