In the last post I talked about how I put in a Facebook friend request for some woman I met last weekend. On Saturday, she'd accepted my request, but by Sunday night she'd unfriended me. I guessed several reasons for this, but the guess that most concerns me might involve how I talk openly and honestly about my mental health issues on this blog. People who wonder why mentally ill people complain about a stigma really need to get hip to the idea that the possibility that this woman unfriended me for that reason seems very probable to me.
My guess is that her next move will wait until I see her at one of the clubs when I go to see a friend's band. This could come in the next weekend or so, or six months from now. It doesn't matter, because she unfriended me. I envision myself talking to a mutual friend and how she might walk up an try to join the conversation.
Now, the only thing I that would concern me about how I'd react to that involves the notion that I would then try to prove what a great guy I am about being rejected by her, and try to come off as all super nice to her. I will try to refrain from doing this. I don't need to get all angry and make a scene, but I don't really need to try to prove what a great guy I am either. I just see that kind of overture as an attempt to manipulate someone such as her into liking me, and I see my attempt to manipulate someone such as her into liking me after rejecting me as an attempt to pursue an unavailable woman, and I try not to pursue unavailable women anymore. I don't need to be rude or nasty to her. I can just be kind of quiet and neutral, and maybe demur from any attempts to converse with her, and bow out of the conversation with the mutual friend or friends.
My guess is that her next move will wait until I see her at one of the clubs when I go to see a friend's band. This could come in the next weekend or so, or six months from now. It doesn't matter, because she unfriended me. I envision myself talking to a mutual friend and how she might walk up an try to join the conversation.
Now, the only thing I that would concern me about how I'd react to that involves the notion that I would then try to prove what a great guy I am about being rejected by her, and try to come off as all super nice to her. I will try to refrain from doing this. I don't need to get all angry and make a scene, but I don't really need to try to prove what a great guy I am either. I just see that kind of overture as an attempt to manipulate someone such as her into liking me, and I see my attempt to manipulate someone such as her into liking me after rejecting me as an attempt to pursue an unavailable woman, and I try not to pursue unavailable women anymore. I don't need to be rude or nasty to her. I can just be kind of quiet and neutral, and maybe demur from any attempts to converse with her, and bow out of the conversation with the mutual friend or friends.
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