I meant what I said a couple of posts ago about how I was glad to discover that there were no longer any love interests amongst the women in my world. I attributed this mainly to the fact that I no longer actively look for viable love interests from the pool of attractive women that I see on a regular basis.
Look, when I had so much trouble with the women back in the 1980s and into the 1990s, however cruel a lot of them were to me, they could all pretty much say that I really had the desire to make them over into something that they really didn't want to be. Now, there were some notable ones who totally represented themselves as something they were not; but, the fact that I tried to put this love interest stuff off on women who really wanted no part of it; that tendency also left me woefully unprepared to deal with those women who actively desired to deceive me over an extended period of time.
I mean, it's one thing to just flirt with me a little here and there, and it was bad enough for me to almost willfully misinterpret such actions as more serious, but man, just try applying that inadequate set of skills to those who really wanted to put one over on the likes of me. The real thing I learned how to do with the "Turn My Back On Love" experiment was a to develop a whole new set of tools that prepare me for other possibilities that have nothing to do with love, girlfriends, or relationships.
I hope that I don't come across as some woman hater when I go on in this manner. I truly believe that my ability to better manage the kinds of situations that I used to have so much trouble with in the past makes me like women in general a lot more than I used to. I hear a lot of stuff about how one should "love yourself," but little in the way of practical advice from these same sources as to how exactly to go about doing that. I think that one could slog through the posts from me of these last several years and get a very clear step by step idea of how I, for one, go about that.
Look, when I had so much trouble with the women back in the 1980s and into the 1990s, however cruel a lot of them were to me, they could all pretty much say that I really had the desire to make them over into something that they really didn't want to be. Now, there were some notable ones who totally represented themselves as something they were not; but, the fact that I tried to put this love interest stuff off on women who really wanted no part of it; that tendency also left me woefully unprepared to deal with those women who actively desired to deceive me over an extended period of time.
I mean, it's one thing to just flirt with me a little here and there, and it was bad enough for me to almost willfully misinterpret such actions as more serious, but man, just try applying that inadequate set of skills to those who really wanted to put one over on the likes of me. The real thing I learned how to do with the "Turn My Back On Love" experiment was a to develop a whole new set of tools that prepare me for other possibilities that have nothing to do with love, girlfriends, or relationships.
I hope that I don't come across as some woman hater when I go on in this manner. I truly believe that my ability to better manage the kinds of situations that I used to have so much trouble with in the past makes me like women in general a lot more than I used to. I hear a lot of stuff about how one should "love yourself," but little in the way of practical advice from these same sources as to how exactly to go about doing that. I think that one could slog through the posts from me of these last several years and get a very clear step by step idea of how I, for one, go about that.
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