I've thought about his statement often over the years. In my last post I go into some instances where I believed that women went adversarial on me. If I went along with the usual role I would play in the obsessive pursuits of such women, maybe I would have to own 85 percent of the responsibility for any shit that went down. When one appears before a judge and that whole system, 85 percent would mean that I would be the one to go down.
I see all the coping tactics I outlined in the previous post as something akin to taking my antipsychotic medication; as a way to manage my symptoms. One of the major points I want to bring across is that I make it my stated goal to have no love interests amongst the women in my world. I'm not against the idea of having a love interest under any circumstances, but in my current situation I don't want any woman in my world to have the feeling that I'm trying to make them over into a love interest.
I think in the examples I gave in the last post of women who started in on me, they were all playing to the notion that I was someone who could become obsessed with them and thus pursue them obsessively. I see the various subtleties of interaction they employed as defense mechanisms against such a possibility. No one has to feel bad about employing such tactics if that truly is the case. I can only imagine how frightening it might be to have someone stalk one, and for one to feel that one's life is out of control just because a scary guy is attracted to one. I do not feel as if I am entitled to hassle anyone because I might have caught them out or "busted" them for using subtle coping tactics that are less than on the up and up.
Also, I honestly don't feel as if I have any burdensome romantic attachment to anyone in my world right now. Like I said, all the tactics I related in my previous post and posts; the avoidance, the stepping back, the walking back of how things progress, the snarky songs I write, the "turning my back on love," couldn't have been developed if I didn't first acknowledge that I myself had a problem with my thought processes, attitudes, and behaviors that I needed to address in a meaningful way.