When I went on my first date with a girl named Veronica in the Spring of 1985, I decided that I was in love with her on that date. It seemed like the thing to do. I wrote two Richy Vegas comics about her, titled "The Villainess Veronica Ortega." I concluded that she just wanted to collect admirers that she didn't have to take seriously as a way of coping with a breakup with a longterm boyfriend. There was this other obsessive guy that she complained to me about, but in spite of her protests about him to me, he seemed to feel encouraged enough to make it all about her all the way into the next Fall.
I think about how I decided that I was in love with Veronica so soon into my acquaintance with her and how best to relate to the women in my world. It is a very strong negative role model to work against. I've mentioned that I tried to get with workers at these businesses a few years back and came up totally empty. The only thing I can think about is, don't do whatever I did that made me decide that I was in love with Veronica so soon.
I guess the main thing that make me decide this so soon was to idealize Veronica. I carried this idealized image of her around with me and didn't take into account what she may have really been about. I think about the women in my world, and think about how I can be a little more critical, in a realistic way, about them.
I remember that the really pretty college age women back then ALWAYS seemed to have boyfriends, or were not single for long between boyfriends. I think about a fair number of the viable women who would allow themselves to be treated shabbily by their boyfriends just for the security. Security often meant that they wouldn't have to field date inquires from young men that they considered unworthy. Their righteous boyfriends, who often times were guys they considered to be assholes, were worthy, so that's a pretty valid criticism. I'm not saying that any of the attractive young women in my world have this kind of thing going on, but it's food for thought as far as I'm concerned.
The tide has gone out today on the Invisible Woman. By that I mean I'm not so inclined today to think any of that stuff has any basis in reality. The tide may come back in on her, or it may not. I think that just by toning it down with the women in my world, it may reduce the intensity of what ever remains of my fixation on her. Much in the same way as how the crew of the Enterprise dropped the shields to reduce the intensity of the energy wave.