I've been thinking about the women I've known since 2003, and I can think of six women since then I've been on at least one date with that I consider within my league. A couple of them I had intimate encounters with, one of them presented me with an opportunity that I turned down, and a few more it never came to that for various reasons.
One thing they all have in common resides in the fact that I never really had to have any real finesse or skill to go out with them on at least one date. I never really had to successfully negotiate my way through some romantic love equivalent of a fight or flight dilemma to get or give out contact information and go on at least one date with any of them.
I thought about these things today after I considered the idea of trying to make it about this or that waitress or barista or ice cream parlor girl or what have you. I never really had to "make it about" any of these women in my league. They just kind of offered themselves to me on a particular occasion or another.
I really hope I'm done with aspiring to get with twenty-two year old goddess types. I really hope I'm done with trying to show up at a particular restaurant or coffee shop or comic book store to see whether or not this or that employee has taken an interest in me. Earlier today I told myself that I would give this one particular deal with one of these employee types a month to bear fruit, but as these deals always seem to shake out once I put a clock on them, I'm ready to blow the whole thing off after a matter of hours.