Last week I asked a young woman who works at a food service place I patronize if I could hang out with her in a bar that she mentioned she frequents. She said that she was going there to watch the final presidential debate, and that, yeah, that was fine. I went there and watched a playoff game on one of the TVs. The debate was about an hour in on the back TV and still, she hadn't shown, so I left. As the time for the debate first kicked off, I just patted myself on the back for asking to hang out with her, because she seemed so much more approachable than the standard bill of fare for me, so it didn't matter whether she showed or not. She had talked before about how I should hang out at this bar she patronizes, I told her that I didn't drink, and she acted shot down. So that night she didn't show, I just took heart in the fact that I'd done my part and left it at that.
I think that it will be a while before I go to this food service place that she works at, if I go there in the foreseeable future at all. I just don't know what to say except to say that I want to try what ever is the road less traveled for me in these kinds of deals. The first thoughts I had as I sat there in that bar waiting for her to show, and it seemed as if she might not, was to go in where she works and play it off like it was no big deal and all that. It's not a big deal. It's just that I've talked about how I've grown to dislike going into these places and having to come off like some great guy because one of these things fell through. So, I'm thinking, why not just blow all of that off this time?
I went to another food service place recently for the first time in over a month. I talked in the blog post, "Executing plays from my playbook," from October 4th of this year, about how I thought a female employee might have been starting in on me, and how I decided to not go there just on the suspicion that, perhaps, that was the case. I went in there recently and she was not being rude like she was before.
Last month I speculated to myself that the reason she was being kind of shitty with me was that she was in the process of switching out boyfriends, and that she wanted to rope me in on that somehow. I figured that I would be the guy who lost out, and this role had been assigned to me, by her, sometime before hand. Who knows? Now she just wants to be polite and do her job. Given the nature of the interaction, if it can even be called that, it's not unrealistic of her to just want for bygones to be bygones.
I'm pretty sure that I don't want much to go in that place any more, either. I just don't. I'll come up with more specific reasons why at some later date. I always do. She does not come off as approachable at all. Plus, she seems like the type that always, always, ALWAYS, has a boyfriend. E-uh!
I think that it will be a while before I go to this food service place that she works at, if I go there in the foreseeable future at all. I just don't know what to say except to say that I want to try what ever is the road less traveled for me in these kinds of deals. The first thoughts I had as I sat there in that bar waiting for her to show, and it seemed as if she might not, was to go in where she works and play it off like it was no big deal and all that. It's not a big deal. It's just that I've talked about how I've grown to dislike going into these places and having to come off like some great guy because one of these things fell through. So, I'm thinking, why not just blow all of that off this time?
I went to another food service place recently for the first time in over a month. I talked in the blog post, "Executing plays from my playbook," from October 4th of this year, about how I thought a female employee might have been starting in on me, and how I decided to not go there just on the suspicion that, perhaps, that was the case. I went in there recently and she was not being rude like she was before.
Last month I speculated to myself that the reason she was being kind of shitty with me was that she was in the process of switching out boyfriends, and that she wanted to rope me in on that somehow. I figured that I would be the guy who lost out, and this role had been assigned to me, by her, sometime before hand. Who knows? Now she just wants to be polite and do her job. Given the nature of the interaction, if it can even be called that, it's not unrealistic of her to just want for bygones to be bygones.
I'm pretty sure that I don't want much to go in that place any more, either. I just don't. I'll come up with more specific reasons why at some later date. I always do. She does not come off as approachable at all. Plus, she seems like the type that always, always, ALWAYS, has a boyfriend. E-uh!
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