In 2009 a friend of mine had two girlfriends. One was his "real" girlfriend, and one was his sidepiece. My friend lied to me about the nature of his relationship to his sidepiece in an effort to foist her off on me, because she proved inconvenient to his relationship with his real girlfriend. His sidepiece lied to me about the nature of their relationship as well. All the while I had issues with my antipsychotic medication, because I had recently quit drinking and drugs, and the sedating effect of the excessive alcohol use wore off as I withdrew from that drug.
Amidst all of the storm in my head as a result, I blew off my friend's sidepiece girlfriend and stopped calling her. My friend started squawking about how hurt she was that I wasn't calling her any more, and called me a piece of shit etc., etc. After I told him off and got him to stop bothering me for a while, I also never heard from his sidepiece ever again. All I had to do involved refraining from calling her, and it was like, 'Poof!', she disappeared.
At some point in this process, I told myself that she might call me or come see me at my house to try to talk to me, but that never happened. As mad as I was at her, I imagined presenting her with a crude sexual proposition if she did show up at my house, but I then thought better of it. I figured that should this girl actually go to the trouble to come see me and talk about my issues with her, that I'd do well to regard that as a potentially very good sign, and that I could give her a day in court to present her case to me.
Recently, I had another unavailable woman dilemma in the form of how I should handle that situation with that girl who used to work at that grocery store I patronize, and how I thought that another young woman who worked at another business I patronize might have been the former grocery store employee's sister. I asked the "sister" if she knew a girl by the grocery store girl's name, and she said no. Soon afterwards, I decided to stop patronizing that business where the "sister" worked, and again, 'Poof!', the dilemma disappeared. Was the "sister" lying to me about not knowing a girl by the name of...the grocery store girl's name? Who cares! Once I stopped buzzing that store where the "sister" worked, that issue, along with all of my other issues with this former grocery store employee went, 'Poof!', as well.
I had a similar experience recently regarding these young women in this up and coming band I like, and I did pretty much the same thing. I decided I wouldn't find anything I'm looking for by following this band on social media, or going to their shows, so I stopped doing those things. I made an exception a few weeks ago when I saw this band play on the same bill as a band that had some of my friends in it. Other than that, 'Poof!', they disappeared. I still see videos of theirs come up on YouTube, but no big deal. Right?
Therefore, in regards to the celebrity person who I've never, ever even met, what to do? I decided to sharply curtail the occasions I look this person up on the internet, and to give myself token reward stickers on my calendar for the daily observance of this effort. I give myself a heart sticker for looking up this person only one time or so in a day, and I give myself a daisy sticker for not looking this person up at all over the course of twenty-four hours. I predict, once again, 'Poof!', there will go my issues with her, before too long.
Of course, I have scenarios go on my head where this celebrity person, whom I've never met, mind you, comes into my world try to talk to me. The sidepiece girlfriend of my friend could not even be bothered to call me herself, come over to my house, or anything else. Again, all I had to do was refrain from calling her and, 'Poof!', she disappeared. I emphasize this: the sidepiece resided in my active social circle, and all I had to do....Therefore, the restrictions on my internet browsing of this celebrity for news and whatnot should take care of that unavailable woman dilemma. And I reiterate, if this celebrity person actually took it upon herself to come into my world somehow, that might actually be a good thing, and not an occasion for shitty behavior from me towards her at all, but I'm not holding my breath, to say the least.
Amidst all of the storm in my head as a result, I blew off my friend's sidepiece girlfriend and stopped calling her. My friend started squawking about how hurt she was that I wasn't calling her any more, and called me a piece of shit etc., etc. After I told him off and got him to stop bothering me for a while, I also never heard from his sidepiece ever again. All I had to do involved refraining from calling her, and it was like, 'Poof!', she disappeared.
At some point in this process, I told myself that she might call me or come see me at my house to try to talk to me, but that never happened. As mad as I was at her, I imagined presenting her with a crude sexual proposition if she did show up at my house, but I then thought better of it. I figured that should this girl actually go to the trouble to come see me and talk about my issues with her, that I'd do well to regard that as a potentially very good sign, and that I could give her a day in court to present her case to me.
Recently, I had another unavailable woman dilemma in the form of how I should handle that situation with that girl who used to work at that grocery store I patronize, and how I thought that another young woman who worked at another business I patronize might have been the former grocery store employee's sister. I asked the "sister" if she knew a girl by the grocery store girl's name, and she said no. Soon afterwards, I decided to stop patronizing that business where the "sister" worked, and again, 'Poof!', the dilemma disappeared. Was the "sister" lying to me about not knowing a girl by the name of...the grocery store girl's name? Who cares! Once I stopped buzzing that store where the "sister" worked, that issue, along with all of my other issues with this former grocery store employee went, 'Poof!', as well.
I had a similar experience recently regarding these young women in this up and coming band I like, and I did pretty much the same thing. I decided I wouldn't find anything I'm looking for by following this band on social media, or going to their shows, so I stopped doing those things. I made an exception a few weeks ago when I saw this band play on the same bill as a band that had some of my friends in it. Other than that, 'Poof!', they disappeared. I still see videos of theirs come up on YouTube, but no big deal. Right?
Therefore, in regards to the celebrity person who I've never, ever even met, what to do? I decided to sharply curtail the occasions I look this person up on the internet, and to give myself token reward stickers on my calendar for the daily observance of this effort. I give myself a heart sticker for looking up this person only one time or so in a day, and I give myself a daisy sticker for not looking this person up at all over the course of twenty-four hours. I predict, once again, 'Poof!', there will go my issues with her, before too long.
Of course, I have scenarios go on my head where this celebrity person, whom I've never met, mind you, comes into my world try to talk to me. The sidepiece girlfriend of my friend could not even be bothered to call me herself, come over to my house, or anything else. Again, all I had to do was refrain from calling her and, 'Poof!', she disappeared. I emphasize this: the sidepiece resided in my active social circle, and all I had to do....Therefore, the restrictions on my internet browsing of this celebrity for news and whatnot should take care of that unavailable woman dilemma. And I reiterate, if this celebrity person actually took it upon herself to come into my world somehow, that might actually be a good thing, and not an occasion for shitty behavior from me towards her at all, but I'm not holding my breath, to say the least.
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