A lot of my maneuverings I talk about in these recent posts have to do with not allowing women I find attractive to treat me shabbily. I'm stating the obvious, but if one were to go with the conciliatory, magnanimous tone of the last post, it might not have been so obvious to me when I wrote that.
I've cut ties with a male friend recently whom I felt didn't treat me well over the years. It's precisely because I've taught myself how to not allow women to treat me the way they've treated me in the past that I've also severed the ties with this friend. It's been a long time coming for him. I remember first talking back to him not long after my dealings with Sara in 1988. Since I took up that baton again this go 'round, I've made decisions about him that are long overdue.
Also, I'm not obliged, I think, to particularly like any women who have tried to treat me in a shabby manner. I have a great problem with trying to come off as a great guy all the time, and this allows people in my mental space that don't belong there, if the past is any indicator.