In my last post I wrote about forgiveness in the context of how I will relate to those mean girls in my world. I said that forgiveness involved laying down my burden of pain by the side of the road and just carrying on down the road after that. I contrasted that concept with the "nice guy" concept of forgiveness. The nice guy sees an opportunity to get material reciprocity from such young, attractive women in his gesture of forgiveness towards them. Things such as love, friendship, dates, and sex are what a nice guy hopes for in return for his forgiveness.
So, what do I mean, figuratively speaking, by laying down my burden of pain by the side of the road? What do I actually do, literally speaking? I don't retaliate, that's what I "do." NOT retaliating is a viable, legitimate course of action to take in this situation. If any of these mean girls want to know what thought dwells in my head in the days to come when I'm around them, it's, "Don't retaliate, don't retaliate," over, and over, and over again. Retaliation can even include a stray dirty look in their direction. I don't even want to do that. That whole Schmaylor Schmift ordeal was about a retaliatory gesture I enacted in the 1980's towards Wanda. Nope!
I've said the following before about retaliation, and it especially applies to retaliation against mean girls: 1) I never got the satisfaction I anticipated whenever I retaliated against someone such as Wanda, 2) The retaliatory gesture created a lot more problems that it solved (boy, I'll say!), and 3) Women such as Wanda never felt as if they deserved the retaliation. Apparently that last one is a universal sentiment shared by just about anyone who has experienced retaliation, including me.
I don't know what else to say on the subject of retaliation. I do feel better knowing that I'm not going to retaliate, and I feel great because I have absolutely no desire to retaliate against any of these mean girls in my world. I'm not even particularly angry at those mean girls, for the most part. I think focusing on the forgiveness- "Don't retaliate, don't retaliate, don't retaliate"- helps extinguish the anger I still occasionally feel towards them.
So, what do I mean, figuratively speaking, by laying down my burden of pain by the side of the road? What do I actually do, literally speaking? I don't retaliate, that's what I "do." NOT retaliating is a viable, legitimate course of action to take in this situation. If any of these mean girls want to know what thought dwells in my head in the days to come when I'm around them, it's, "Don't retaliate, don't retaliate," over, and over, and over again. Retaliation can even include a stray dirty look in their direction. I don't even want to do that. That whole Schmaylor Schmift ordeal was about a retaliatory gesture I enacted in the 1980's towards Wanda. Nope!
I've said the following before about retaliation, and it especially applies to retaliation against mean girls: 1) I never got the satisfaction I anticipated whenever I retaliated against someone such as Wanda, 2) The retaliatory gesture created a lot more problems that it solved (boy, I'll say!), and 3) Women such as Wanda never felt as if they deserved the retaliation. Apparently that last one is a universal sentiment shared by just about anyone who has experienced retaliation, including me.
I don't know what else to say on the subject of retaliation. I do feel better knowing that I'm not going to retaliate, and I feel great because I have absolutely no desire to retaliate against any of these mean girls in my world. I'm not even particularly angry at those mean girls, for the most part. I think focusing on the forgiveness- "Don't retaliate, don't retaliate, don't retaliate"- helps extinguish the anger I still occasionally feel towards them.
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