I gather that some people in my day to day world were taken aback by how proactively I let that whole situation involving that waitress in that diner just go by the wayside. I haven't seen her in over three weeks, and I feel fine about my decision to let it all go. I think this waitress at this diner and other women saw me as the obsessive type, and that I would persist in my attentions to this waitress even though she, to my way of seeing things, was not receptive to my attempt to approach her for social reasons.
I think it's BAD that so many women EXPECT me to pursue someone such as this waitress with more persistence and ardor than I wind up actually doing. I don't like the idea of having a reputation as the overly persistent, obsessive guy that some attractive woman has to do the math on whether or not to display any inclination to like me on any level. I think so many women I have an attraction to would, if given a choice between some player/womanizer type of man and an obsessive man, they would choose the womanizer ANY DAY and see such a type as the way lesser of the two evils.
I think what a lot of women don't seem to realize about a LOT of obsessive men resides in the fact that so many obsessive men WANT TO CHANGE. Whereas, the womanizer is, more often than not, fine with himself the way he is. I feel as if I've made significant, substantial changes to how I relate to women I'm attracted to, and that setting limits to the lengths I will go to in order to get with someone I have an attraction to represents the fruits on MANY, MANY years of hard work on my path to do better about that.
If any women in my world who perceive me as having an attraction to them wonder how things could shake out if things didn't totally work out, they'd only have to look to situations such as that one involving that former cashier at that grocery store, or this or that barista or waitress, or this or that woman associated in some way with Austin Clubhouse (whether staff, volunteer, intern, or clubhouse member). I see no problem with the notion of following my buddha over chasing down "true love, everlasting" and seeing if that changes how women in my world might anticipate how I'll relate to them.
I think it's BAD that so many women EXPECT me to pursue someone such as this waitress with more persistence and ardor than I wind up actually doing. I don't like the idea of having a reputation as the overly persistent, obsessive guy that some attractive woman has to do the math on whether or not to display any inclination to like me on any level. I think so many women I have an attraction to would, if given a choice between some player/womanizer type of man and an obsessive man, they would choose the womanizer ANY DAY and see such a type as the way lesser of the two evils.
I think what a lot of women don't seem to realize about a LOT of obsessive men resides in the fact that so many obsessive men WANT TO CHANGE. Whereas, the womanizer is, more often than not, fine with himself the way he is. I feel as if I've made significant, substantial changes to how I relate to women I'm attracted to, and that setting limits to the lengths I will go to in order to get with someone I have an attraction to represents the fruits on MANY, MANY years of hard work on my path to do better about that.
If any women in my world who perceive me as having an attraction to them wonder how things could shake out if things didn't totally work out, they'd only have to look to situations such as that one involving that former cashier at that grocery store, or this or that barista or waitress, or this or that woman associated in some way with Austin Clubhouse (whether staff, volunteer, intern, or clubhouse member). I see no problem with the notion of following my buddha over chasing down "true love, everlasting" and seeing if that changes how women in my world might anticipate how I'll relate to them.
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