In my last post I talked about how Ted Turner persisted with Jane Fonda when he called her several times and continued to ask her out even though she initially turned him down the first few times he did so. I've concluded that Ted Turner must have felt confident enough in those interactions with her and liked her enough as a result of those interactions with her that he felt encouraged to go ahead and persist in asking her out more than once.
With me in my interactions with that waitress at that diner, it's kind of the opposite side of the coin. Don't get me wrong, I DO like her quite a lot. But, based on a couple of interactions with her, including the occasion where I went through with inviting her to the Staple comic book convention last month, I don't feel good enough about what went down to take another chance on approaching her for social reasons.
I don't want to go into the gory details of all that happened, but I will say that she seemed to derive a tinge of sadistic pleasure from seeing me struggle some in my interactions with her on a couple of occasions, and that includes that time a month ago now that I did indeed reach out to her by inviting her to the comic book convention. Again, I'm not trying to embarrass her with specifics, but the smile that came across her face as she saw me struggle some on those two occasions doesn't exactly instill confidence in me that taking another chance on her is a good idea. I'm willing to bet that Ted didn't have that kind of issue with Jane.
Get this, I did good to take just ONE chance on that waitress at that diner. Starting with Sara in 1988, there have been plenty of women on plenty of occasions where I didn't even take that ONE chance with them and felt fine to not do so. One of the most important things I discovered in my experiences with Sara in 1988 is the realization that the chances I take with women are mine to take or mine NOT TO TAKE.
That's a big reason why that experience with Sara is a well I still draw water from today. The experience of losing my virginity several years before Sara stands as more of a product of its time. The whole bull in a china shop approach I had to THAT dilemma found enough forgiveness from those around me to bring the whole first time experience off. Maybe bull in a china shop is not the most accurate metaphor, but it really was like I FINALLY just drew some random lucky ticket in some lottery, and that's how that whole losing my virginity experience went down.
With me in my interactions with that waitress at that diner, it's kind of the opposite side of the coin. Don't get me wrong, I DO like her quite a lot. But, based on a couple of interactions with her, including the occasion where I went through with inviting her to the Staple comic book convention last month, I don't feel good enough about what went down to take another chance on approaching her for social reasons.
I don't want to go into the gory details of all that happened, but I will say that she seemed to derive a tinge of sadistic pleasure from seeing me struggle some in my interactions with her on a couple of occasions, and that includes that time a month ago now that I did indeed reach out to her by inviting her to the comic book convention. Again, I'm not trying to embarrass her with specifics, but the smile that came across her face as she saw me struggle some on those two occasions doesn't exactly instill confidence in me that taking another chance on her is a good idea. I'm willing to bet that Ted didn't have that kind of issue with Jane.
Get this, I did good to take just ONE chance on that waitress at that diner. Starting with Sara in 1988, there have been plenty of women on plenty of occasions where I didn't even take that ONE chance with them and felt fine to not do so. One of the most important things I discovered in my experiences with Sara in 1988 is the realization that the chances I take with women are mine to take or mine NOT TO TAKE.
That's a big reason why that experience with Sara is a well I still draw water from today. The experience of losing my virginity several years before Sara stands as more of a product of its time. The whole bull in a china shop approach I had to THAT dilemma found enough forgiveness from those around me to bring the whole first time experience off. Maybe bull in a china shop is not the most accurate metaphor, but it really was like I FINALLY just drew some random lucky ticket in some lottery, and that's how that whole losing my virginity experience went down.
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