Okay, I'll propose a revised deal

I'm fine with being platonic friends with this person I've been talking about in these past several posts.  "Platonic friends" means just what I say.  She can date whomever she wants to date, except me.  I just want to try being friends with this type of woman in hopes of better understanding their end of  these deals I've found myself getting into all of my adult life.  That will require more honesty and frankness in our times together than she, or perhaps I, can realistically offer.  But I'm willing to give it a try.  

Let me be clear, I'm NOT talking about "friend zone."  I will try my level best to accept a potentially meaningful platonic friendship with such a person over any aspirations that might linger on my end about wanting to date such a person.  I hope I can pull something like that off, and I promise I'll try.

As for the parameters of such a deal.  I  think I would feel most comfortable seeing such a person at a public place such as a coffee shop or a restaurant over hanging out at either of our residences.  I have to try to be careful about being around such a person and try to refrain from getting ideas about things, and I think limiting our times together to public places might help with that.  I don't drink or do drugs, so not having stuff like that alter my ability to control myself when I'm around her should help.