The young, very attractive woman I talked about in my last post presented access and availability issues the last time I worked with her. Specifically, at one point as we talked during our shift, I mentioned that I'd had a lot of days in a row off work recently, and how that afforded me time to work on my projects. Okay, cue the hottie: "What projects are you working on?" Did she then ask me that question? Nope. She just stood there, and the silent pause in our conversation just let that prompt from me fade into air.
"Geez, what's the big deal, Rich? Were your fee-fees hurt or something because she didn't ask you about your pwecious comic books?" No. My issue with her response arises from the notion that she knew damn well what she was doing when she didn't take the bait. As attractive AND intelligent as she is, she banked on the notion that by responding the way she did, I would then try to prompt her again in the same manner at some future date. She would then find such repeated attempts by me to steer our small talk in that kind of direction highly amusing, so she would continue to let my prompts hang in the air and die off, awkwardly.
When I like someone such as her, I want to get to know them better. The worst way to go about that is to do anything that smacks of mindlessly chasing after them, I've found. Going in some other direction in response to such games, as subtle as her game was, it was still a game; going in some other direction in response to such games presents a much better method of getting to know someone such as her better.
She might not even be available. She might not even be interested. She might not even be available or interested. Women such her never, ever afforded me much of an opportunity to actually date them. To my way of seeing things, I have little or nothing to lose by going off in some other away kind of direction from her, because, in doing so, I might see the things in her that make women such has her tick. Like I said, I want to get to know her better. My methods might not afford me the opportunity to date someone such as her, but at least I have a chance to know things about her I'd never, ever find out by chasing after her to the ends of the earth and back.
"Geez, what's the big deal, Rich? Were your fee-fees hurt or something because she didn't ask you about your pwecious comic books?" No. My issue with her response arises from the notion that she knew damn well what she was doing when she didn't take the bait. As attractive AND intelligent as she is, she banked on the notion that by responding the way she did, I would then try to prompt her again in the same manner at some future date. She would then find such repeated attempts by me to steer our small talk in that kind of direction highly amusing, so she would continue to let my prompts hang in the air and die off, awkwardly.
When I like someone such as her, I want to get to know them better. The worst way to go about that is to do anything that smacks of mindlessly chasing after them, I've found. Going in some other direction in response to such games, as subtle as her game was, it was still a game; going in some other direction in response to such games presents a much better method of getting to know someone such as her better.
She might not even be available. She might not even be interested. She might not even be available or interested. Women such her never, ever afforded me much of an opportunity to actually date them. To my way of seeing things, I have little or nothing to lose by going off in some other away kind of direction from her, because, in doing so, I might see the things in her that make women such has her tick. Like I said, I want to get to know her better. My methods might not afford me the opportunity to date someone such as her, but at least I have a chance to know things about her I'd never, ever find out by chasing after her to the ends of the earth and back.
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