I went to the Austin Corn Lovers Fiesta last night. At one point in the evening, I thought I saw the other party. I call the person I attribute an alleged internet presence I supposedly have that I did not consent to "the other party." Anyhoo, I think I had a sighting of this other party last night at the Corn Lovers Fiesta.
I have absolutely zero desire to reach out to this person and try to make things right with them in that particular manner. Instead, I will simply reiterate my previously stated position on this whole affair and say that I will forgive this person to the extent that I will not attempt to retaliate against them for the wrongs they may or may not have done unto me.
I see actually reaching out to them as an attempt to prove what a great guy I am, and by extension, I see reaching out in such a manner as an attempt to gain some material thing from this person. Material things I might hope to gain from reaching out to them might include access to art gallery shows or gigs for my musical act.
The one thing I can definitely gain from unilaterally forgiving them their trespasses against me and having that forgiveness take the form of promising myself I will not attempt to retaliate against them; the one thing I can gain from that course of action I already possess. That one thing I already possess comes on the form of a sense of inner peace and quiet about this horrible, evil deed I accuse the person of perpetrating against me. The inner peace and quiet I experience, daily, stems from the path I take of no attempts to retaliate against this person or any person I associate with her. In essence, I've already gained all I can realistically hope to gain from any act of forgiveness from me towards this person, and I don't have any need to reach out to them.
Let me make this one point clear. I consider a concerted effort on my part to refrain from even shooting this person a dirty look or making a cutting remark around them a huge component of my overall position of forgiveness towards them. That's because attempting to refrain from retaliation on even that level helps me gain a greater sense of inner peace and overall well-being about the particulars of this whole atrocious affair. The whole idea that I can stop this back and forth between myself and this person, even if it's just me on my end stopping my part in it; that really helps me a lot.
Which brings me to my concluding point. What if this person continues on their path of attempting to get back at me? Well, there's just no pleasing some people, is there. All the more reason to not even attempt to reach out to them in some sort of great-guy way.
I have absolutely zero desire to reach out to this person and try to make things right with them in that particular manner. Instead, I will simply reiterate my previously stated position on this whole affair and say that I will forgive this person to the extent that I will not attempt to retaliate against them for the wrongs they may or may not have done unto me.
I see actually reaching out to them as an attempt to prove what a great guy I am, and by extension, I see reaching out in such a manner as an attempt to gain some material thing from this person. Material things I might hope to gain from reaching out to them might include access to art gallery shows or gigs for my musical act.
The one thing I can definitely gain from unilaterally forgiving them their trespasses against me and having that forgiveness take the form of promising myself I will not attempt to retaliate against them; the one thing I can gain from that course of action I already possess. That one thing I already possess comes on the form of a sense of inner peace and quiet about this horrible, evil deed I accuse the person of perpetrating against me. The inner peace and quiet I experience, daily, stems from the path I take of no attempts to retaliate against this person or any person I associate with her. In essence, I've already gained all I can realistically hope to gain from any act of forgiveness from me towards this person, and I don't have any need to reach out to them.
Let me make this one point clear. I consider a concerted effort on my part to refrain from even shooting this person a dirty look or making a cutting remark around them a huge component of my overall position of forgiveness towards them. That's because attempting to refrain from retaliation on even that level helps me gain a greater sense of inner peace and overall well-being about the particulars of this whole atrocious affair. The whole idea that I can stop this back and forth between myself and this person, even if it's just me on my end stopping my part in it; that really helps me a lot.
Which brings me to my concluding point. What if this person continues on their path of attempting to get back at me? Well, there's just no pleasing some people, is there. All the more reason to not even attempt to reach out to them in some sort of great-guy way.
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